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"I was just more inclined to find the positive."

"It's more of a believer's game," Mia said of old-fashioned dating. She didn't have to, she said, because she knew her friend would never set her up with a man who was unkind or untrustworthy. Before her first date, Mia didn't even bother Googling him. Today Mia is engaged to a man whom she met through a close friend. That didn't lead to a lot of second dates. Tired of being deceived and taken advantage of, Mia would spend first dates trying to find all the holes in the men's stories. (According to a Pew Research survey, Mia's right: 71% of daters report it's "very common" for people to lie on dating-app profiles.)

Why? For one thing, she described online dating to me as "a doubter's game." Mia just assumed most men online were lying to her-about their careers, about their marital status, or about whether they were looking for a hookup or an actual relationship. Mia, a 49-year-old divorcee, was a one of those unhappy app customers.